I gotta say "you poor guy". Coming from a woman's perspective - where I worked with mostly women and one man - women are just that way. Sorry. I understand your frustration, though. I was once a supervisor of three women, all of whom had different personalities. I basically had to adjust my personality to compliment the woman I was addressing at any particular time. Believe me, that is difficult for a woman to do. I was recently told by my (former) male boss that women need to remove the "emotion" from their work. Doing so - to a small extent - did change my outlook and reaction when he made suggestions on doing things differently. I was able to constructively communicate with him. Keep in mind, though, I only removed the "emotion" from certain work tasks. I guess it is a two way street. You ahve to adjust your personality and she has to accept the facts.

So, to answer your question, I suggest trying to word things in a manner to this particular woman that compliments her personality. No pointing fingers, no blaming (I'm not implying you do these things). Start off by saying something like "you make a very good point (name), maybe we can add to your point by...". It always makes a person feel good when their idea is acknowledged positivly, even if a twist is put to the idea.

It may sound like you're not being yourself, but in reality, I think you are helping her as well as expanding your management skills.

Hope this helps!

Kathleen
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